Sympathy is perceived similarity
Among dog owners there is the famous saying: “He/she Looks more and more like his/her dog!” Really, if you have a look around, you may get the feeling that there is a lot of similarities between dogs and their owners – not only in appearance but also in personality.
It might be that the owner had chosen that dog because of the match in manner, because “sympathy is perceived similarity” – and so we sometimes unconsciously choose a dog that already shows parallels to our personality.
However, dogs as well are masters in adapting to their environment and their humans, they know how to “tune in”. This ability enabled them to become human’s loyal companions.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – Jim Rohn.
This phenomenon of adaptation cannot only be observed in human-dog relationships. It also appears in every human-human relationship.
And here there are two exciting dynamics. On the one hand, we usually feel attracted by people who are somehow similar to us. Familiarity conveys a feeling of security.
On the other hand, over time, we develop more and more similarities with the five people we spend most of our time with. Thus, our environment is a powerful influencer when it comes to our personal development.
But how often do we look at our environment and our relationships from the perspective of our personal development?
Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
And how do you feel after meeting these people? Inspired? Supported? Challenged?
Or rather exhausted, tense, empty?
Have a closer look at the relationships in which the latter applies. What keeps you maintaining them? Could you reduce the time you spend with these people? Or is it perhaps even time to say goodbye to one or the other?
On the other hand, who are the people who build and inspire you?
How could you spend more with them?
Relationships are the greatest power in our life.
The regular exchange with friends and people close to us reduces stress. Socialising is proven to be one of the best coping strategies.
And talking personal development, we can take advantage of the fact that we are influenced and shaped by our environment.
What would you like more of in your life? Which qualities and values would you like to develop further?
What do you admire other people for? And how much time do you spend with people who are already living these qualities?
Most fears are caused by uncertainty and the unknown.
To take subsequent actions, you may need to step out of your comfort zone. On the one hand it is sometimes difficult for us – because we need connections to people – to terminate or reduce relationships that cost us energy to a minimum.
On the other hand, it can feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable to approach people we do not know and who look at things from a different perspective – because the unknown causes insecurity and sometimes even fear.
It is easier to surround oneselfs with the known – and to seek relationships with people who confirm us in what we already are and do. But if we want to develop further, we don’t need encouragement and confirmation for what we already are, but challenge and impulse for what we want to be. So if it feels weird, welcome the uncertainty with open arms – because it is your indicator that you are on the right track.
Take a few minutes today to think about the quality of your relationships – and what you could change to blossom (even more) with them in the future.